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Monday, July 28, 2008

its been some time since i blogged...

well, loads of thins happened...

it has been a very busy busy week..

last week i was sick for 3 consecutive days, so i rested and skipped skul..

ya, i did prac my piano too..
thinking tat my letter will come soon.
Lizaan already got her letter for the notice of exam date..
she oso taking grade 8 piano this yr.
her exam is 19/18 august, forgot >.<
veryvery fast

consider my condition, i still need loads of prac..
thou i can get all the notes, accuracy is still bit of a prob.
and feeling is not there, hahahs
slowly bah..

having extra prac on mon, tue..
tue i nvr go band..
so whn thursday came, it was competition day..

SIBF Republic poly.

i did not go skul,
muz let myself relax, i shall not and should not panic.

make up done.
clothing done.
hair done.
prac done.
tuning done.

it was our turn on the 2nd half of Division I competition.
excited. yet muz b calm..

last SYF for skss, i was nervous, in the end i hav 2 giv up my solo.

this time round, i din hav 2 giv up, so i gav my best.

yup, i do get loads of good and excellent comments from the audience, conductors, etc.

thanks alot to those ppl who commented on me..
really thankyou, appreciated :)

so we waited for our results at 10 plus 11, we oso watched the other bands,
thailand lumpang band, Hk neowinds...etc.
they were great, really..
especially ACS both independent and JC...
wow...

Neowinds played gloriosa too..their running notes were clearer than us...
wow..

AND the results : SILVER!
83.14 %, 2nd in DIVISION I
1st was Philyouth.
Congrats to them, hahhas.

fri, rested at home too..
tired..

sat, we had a master class with Douglas Bostock!!!
he very handsome!!!
i enjoyed the session with him alot..

sun,
exchange with Neowinds from HK..
Neowinds is sort of outside band.. jus like our philyouth, sws, kim seng, etc.
their band consist of age 10-25...
it was really great!
they hav good winds section..
brass oso very good...
especially Martha,piccolo player.
she was only 12 yrs old!
she learn flute for 6 yrs, piccolo for 1 yr only....
and her sound is fantastic...
her sound is so "opened"
but lack of expression...a bit rough...but its still excellent!

i oso learn for 6 yrs..
i played picc for 5 yrs...
compare us...
i really bow down to her...

such a talented flautist and piccoloist...

after that we went to sentosa for Outreach programme by SIBF.
wow, the sun....
hot!!!!!

after us was the thailand lumpang band...
hahahs

they saw 2 very handsome and cute eupho guys...
lols...
but i muz sae their sound is real nice, jus tt they shld be more careful with the choices of piece,
alil' not tt 'high'...
hahas

lastly the pictures!
i will upload at facebook soon...'
if u hav my account,hahhas.
but will upload some here..

ok, report finished! :)

3:31 PM

Saturday, July 19, 2008

Do you know what is Attraction?

Attraction includes physical and emotional connection between Man & Woman.
and it brings Man and Woman together.

Man often 'withdraw' and 'pull back' from woman.

Man do not label their feelings, and he would use dumb languages such as
" It's not you, but me"
" I'm not ready for a serious relationship"

But deep down, 99% of all men are ready for a relationship and Love to find that special woman, someone with whom they could finally let their guard down, and experience true love.

A Man will never tell you about why he didn't want you.
When a Man pulls away from a Woman, it's not because Men are 'screwed up',
and not because he has doubts about being in a relationship.
It's because he has doubts about being in a relationship with That Particular Woman.

It doesn't mean he's not attracted to you physically,
(if not he wouldn't get close with you.)
Neither is it no attraction emotionally.

But it's just that there wasn't Enough Attraction there to lead him feel that you were the one for him.

So how to give a Man that 'forever feel' so he knows that without a doubt you are the perfect Woman for him?

1. How attraction works for Man, and how to create it inside a Man, that awakens more than just his physical sense & 'short-term' interest.

Men respond to anticipation, tension & other ingredients of Attraction.
If used correctly, they will amplify each other, leading to a very strong DEEP LEVEL of ATTRACTION.
If you want Man to feel the GUT LEVEL attraction inside more than "she's cute or hot enough to date a little while" that some guys feel, then you need to evolve for yourself a NEW UNDERSTANDING of how communication works.

2. The things that destroy attraction & lead a Man to say " I'm not ready for a relationship" & how to avoid them.

Have you ever met a man where you both connected deeply,
things moved FAST because it felt so right,
but then the unthinkable happened when you finally talked one day…
and he said that he actually wasn't that “into” you and a relationship after all…
even though his thoughts, behavior and feelings told you an entirely different story about him all along?

They key to avoiding this is to learn both how attraction is created AND destroyed.

It's a pain, but once a man decides that you're the “I'm just not ready for a relationship” girl to him (translation: you acted predictable and lack emotional intelligence enough to prove that you're going to be less and less comfortable, fun and easygoing as time goes on) then that's it…

You don't want to create this feeling or idea in a man's head and kill the deeper level attraction he could feel for you.

It’s CRUCIAL that you learn how to “keep the ball in the air” and keep the attraction building… not just physically, but emotionally… which is the trickiest part with a man.

It’s also crucial that you learn how to easily and almost effortlessly KEEP a man feeling that intense desire and attraction inside a relationship… and not just in the early dating stages.

3. Understand how to read and respond to a Man's 'emotional world'

Men might act emotionally strong, indifferent, and even cold, but most men are surprisingly fragile emotionally. The thing is… it's just not part of their more “masculine” make up to display or talk about these things much of the time and to avoid the opportunity they bring for connection and intimacy.

Instead, they often express their emotions in more symbolic and indirect ways… when it comes to dating and relationships, most women commonly misinterpret or react negatively to a man's “natural” emotional displays.

Think about this…

Attractive men who are smart, handsome, and successful are flirted with and approached all the time.

These men have OPTIONS.

And some of the more “needy” and desperate women who try for their attention have no idea whatsoever what it takes to get an attractive man's attention and KEEP IT.

And even if these women do date a guy for a while and things “seem” good, if a woman doesn't understand how things work for HIM, and how his feelings are triggered without all the neediness, emotional pleading, sexual enticements, etc., then there's no way the man's going stay attracted and interested for the long term.

It isn't “fair”, and it can just suck, but if a woman doesn't understand how to create attraction, how a man's emotions open up and close off, and why… then a man just won't FEEL IT for her as time passes - even if the connection USED TO BE THERE.

Understanding this mindset… how it affects a man's personality… and (this is key) what kinds of “games” men play to diplomatically and politely excuse themselves or withdraw from any future commitment is HIGHLY important.

I know how frustrating it can be with what seems like so many “games” going on and so much to think about just for the simple feeling and sharing of love.

And isn't true love supposed to just “happen” and be free of all this?

Well… the thing is, once you start to understand more about a man's emotional world and how to help him tune into yours, it won't seem or feel like work to you at all.

You'll be able to get back into that “flow” where love IS shared and expressed easily… and you will both start to naturally understand and fulfill each other.

If there's one thing that attractive men seem to respond to universally, it's A WOMAN WHO GETS WHAT'S GOING ON EMOTIONALLY for herself AND for him.

THAT’S when a man will share his love with you.

Being a woman who already “gets” what an emotional connection is, you're way ahead of the game with a man.

Now you've got to learn exactly how to put that advantage to use in your love life for good.

It’s time to learn to see things in a completely different way… which will lead to you becoming almost MAGNETICALLY ATTRACTIVE to men for more than just a fling. Really. Your emotions and your ability and power to connect are your own set of “pre-wired tools”. All you need to do is start using them the right way…

4. How to come across a Man as Unique?

Once you realize that men often date constantly, know lots of different women, and have had several past relationships that didn't go well for them either, you begin to realize that THEY MUST START TO SEE PATTERNS in the way women behave around them… just like the patterns you recognize with men.

Here's a great question for you…

What do you think the most common pattern is that men see in women?

If you haven't already guessed it, it's the pattern of a woman trying to CONVINCE a man to make more of the relationship and change or feel something that they can't “control.”

LOTS of women do this and don't even know it.

But here's the worst part---how men RESPOND.

When women take on “convincing” or pleading behaviors, there's a common, frustrating, and destructive male response - WITHDRAWAL.

Let me paint a brief picture for you of the pattern men see and fear in this situation…

In the guy's mind, the withdrawal scenario usually goes something like…

“Whoa! When did this turn from fun into a ton of work? Things have been great, but now it feels “different” because she's unsatisfied and pushing on me to define our relationship…”

“And I HAVEN'T EVEN DECIDED what I want exactly, or what the heck it is that I'm feeling here…”

“And now that the easy chemistry and attraction we used to have has changed- I guess “the magic” is gone…”

“I guess I'll just skip all the trouble that I know from past experiences is about to come up and pull away.”

Well, guess what? Trying to convince a man to act a certain way or feel something with you is the best approach to use if you love spending all your nights alone cuddled up watching Oprah reruns in your PJs.

But seriously… If you recognize anything about these situations, then you know from experience that the more a man pulls away, the more you feel like you need to talk to him and show him what he's doing wrong that's driving you both apart.

And hey… I get it.

Men can sure be clueless idiots that actually do need help to notice the dumb things they're doing.

But unfortunately, here's where most women learn the WRONG LESSON about men… Because a man won't easily open up and stay connected, a woman will actually start trying to do all the communication and “work” for him. Sometimes women start to “fill in the blanks” and play “connect the dots” with all the past situations and conversations so that they can figure out exactly what's going on and why he's being totally unresponsive and withdrawn so they can fix it.

This hopeless strategy works for a few days or weeks, but only serves to make BOTH the man and the woman more frustrated in the long run.

There's a right way to go about it, and lots of wrong ways that will get you nowhere.

It's time to stop sending the signals and displaying behaviors that almost instantly bring up negative and predictable patterns men see and fear in women.

And yes, men could stand to grow up and deal with their own fears. But you can also help them and yourself out by learning the easily avoided male “triggers” and “buttons” that activate fears and issues most men have around women, love, and relationships.

It’s VITAL that you avoid these common “danger buttons” and to connect with a man in a way that naturally leads him to seek intimacy and sharing with you, instead of the isolation and withdrawal that other women have unknowingly encouraged in him.

5. Know what to EXPECT in Common Situations, and the Best ways of handling them.

First, most women had the same problems and situations with different men. Somehow, the same things that had limited or destroyed their previous situations kept coming back with the different guys they would date.

Secondly, most women just plain DIDN'T KNOW WHAT TO EXPECT in each situation with a man. They were caught off guard, frustrated, upset or shocked by both the things they had seen and dealt with before with other men and by other new, but also common, situations.

Lots of women get freaked out because they don't understand what's going on with several unfortunately common, immature, and predictable relationship behaviors men have. (Hint - lots of these behaviors are actually harmless displays of male “resistance” and withdrawal to deep connection and true intimacy, but they're only harmless IF a woman knows what these are and isn't freaked out by them)

It’s very important that you learn WHAT TO EXPECT… including the types of responses you're most likely to get in various situations, what's most likely to happen, the intentional and unintentional ways that a man will “test” you… and more.

You'll stay more comfortable, more assured, more confident, less stressed, happier, more positive… the list goes on, and so do the benefits to you and your relationship.

7:20 PM

Saturday, July 12, 2008

http://memyselfmine.blogspot.com/

this blog.
makes ppl tear...

the more you should cherish people ard you..
especially those who mean alot to you..
those you cant live without.
don let urself live wid regret...

thats the reason y ppl don mind waiting jus for an answer to be replied properly..

11:04 PM